What is extreme?
What is perverse?
This is a really good question that came through many of my conversations with others (it happened at least 2 or 3 times this weekend) So I found useful to give here some reflections about the relativity of those notions.
From my experience, everyone see different levels and will consider extreme or perverse various things (even some consider that tying someone or wearing a blindfold to be perverse.)
In my mind I consider and respect everyone vision, as long as they also respect others with our judging. we are no one to judge others as long as they respect some basic rules. – In my case I always had for absolute limit the fact that I will never do anything with someone/thing that is not able or in position to consent (which means for exemple that I will never do underage or force anything or anyone that is not wanting or in a state to do the thing) < this is a really important thing for me -I tried to translate from the French so I will write down the original version of this hard limit “Je ne ferais ou ne participerais jamais si l’être n’est pas consonant ou en mesure de consentir)
Let’s be back on the main question, and try to show some extreme or perverse situation that I have seen people do or that I had been considering thought the year.
Let’s start with a basic that many people seems to be interested in : Blackmail. I won’t exemplar too much about the activity that Theodora (theonlytheodora) has explained in a really interesting article -some of you may know who Theodora is to me, but I still think her articles are perfectly made to understand some of perversions that peoples want to explore-. Anyway, that kin of activity is flirting with illegality, and I won’t recommend to anyone to play it with some non professionals who may not understand the boundaries and the balance that need to be present in any play.
On the perverse side, there is may “paraphilia” but in a BDSM way, I will probably explain it as a “supplicate” where the dominant push the play a little further than expected by the submissive
I already spoke about extreme in many of my articles, for some plays, or even body modifications.
That’s why I will focus here on some other activities that some peoples asked me about. I will also try to explain the importance of balance, security and long term vision.
In my mind one of the most extreme thing is about psychological domination, but I will give a full chapter for this extreme, perverse and really dangerous; and the tools to acces it can’t be in anyone hands.
In my life I also seen some peoples getting mutilated or even having their teeth removed, witch I find a little to extreme as the definitive aspects of it implicate that the owner have to never abandon his/her slave or change his/her mind. And trust me, from my experience I know that people always change ! At the beginning it’s like a new dish washer that you will play with, but after some times the interest get slowly downwards.
This is for that reason I always considered that a couple/group would be a better solution to create something in the most secure way.
Exploring the scene made me see a lot of strange and extreme perversion, but as usual I try not to judge, but it made me know what I define as extreme or perverse.
Some peoples asked me to explore in this article other activity that peoples fantasize about often and are definitely extreme, like Toilet play.
Toilet play looks easy, but trust me, it’s not in many ways
